Let’s be real for a moment, shall we? Have you ever just had a bad day? It seems like nothing is going right, you’re frustrated about something or just have this inexplicable feeling of “uuuuugggghhhh”? (Yes, ‘uuuuugggghhhh’ is a very technical Life Coaching term.)
You can say 137,000 positive affirmations. You can try to look for the silver lining. You can even slap a not-so-genuine smile on your face. No matter what technique you throw at it, this little black cloud just won’t seem to stop raining on your parade. Guess what?? It’s ok to admit when you’re having a bad day. It’s ok to acknowledge that you feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. It’s even ok to play Brian McKnight’s, “One Last Cry” on repeat for a little while and let those tears flow. Our emotions are our built-in navigational system. They tell us when we’re not on the right path and when we need to change direction or re-focus our energies on more productive things.
Embrace those bad days and know that you are exactly where you need to be in order to learn valuable lessons that will lead you onto the right path. Allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling but here’s the key: do NOT allow this feeling to continue for extended periods of time because then it’s easy to fall into a depression or start creating a bunch of stuff that you don’t want. My personal time limit is 30 minutes. I allow myself to kick and scream and even feel sorry for myself but I will not allow it to go on longer than 30 minutes – and I don’t allow it to happen often. Once I’ve let those bad feelings out, I begin to replace them with positive feelings and thoughts that help to elevate my mood.
A technique that I learned from Esther and Jerry Hicks is called Pivoting. Whenever you become aware of a bad feeling or a negative thought, stop and say, “I realize what I DON’T want. Now, what is it that I DO want?” Then begin mentally (or verbally) listing the things that you want. Here’s an example. You realize that you are afraid because you don’t have enough money to pay your bills. Acknowledge your feelings and then begin listing what you want: I want to feel secure. I want to have an abundance of money in the bank so that I never have to worry about paying my bills again. I want to be able to live a comfortable life. I want to feel relief. I want to feel peace. By focusing your attention on what you do want, you are re-aligning onto the right path. It is impossible to think a negative and positive thought at the same time.
Know that it’s ok; we all have bad days. The important thing is to not allow those bad days to turn into a bad life.
Sending you love in abundance,